One But Not the Only: Reconfiguring Intimacy in Multiple Partner Relationships
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- 作者：Michelle Wolkomir
- 关键词：Romantic love ; Gender ; Sexuality ; Non ; monogamy
- 刊名：Qualitative Sociology
- 出版年：2015
- 出版时间：December 2015
- 年：2015
- 卷：38
- 期：4
- 页码：417-438
- 全文大小：415 KB
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1. Director Gender Studies Program, Centenary College of Louisiana, Shreveport, LA, USA - 刊物类别：Humanities, Social Sciences and Law
- 刊物主题：Social Sciences
Sociology
Social Sciences
Cross Cultural Psychology
Interdisciplinary Studies
Personality and Social Psychology - 出版者：Springer Netherlands
- ISSN：1573-7837
文摘
The romantic love ideology that permeates our culture, shapes marriages, and structures perceptions of what love should be frames the ideal intimate relationship as a (heterosexual) bond in which “one and only soulmates-share an intense emotional closeness and sexual attraction in committed monogamy. In this framework, sexual fidelity and exclusivity serve as markers of shared trust and uniqueness, making these facets of idealized romantic love perhaps the most central and important defining characteristics of such relationships. Multiple partner intimacies can thus pose significant challenges to relationships and notions of romantic love. Drawing on in-depth interviews with 55 people who are either in mixed orientation marriages or polyamorous relationships, this study examines how couples negotiate marital situations in which one or both spouses have extramarital lovers. These negotiations reveal how and why some participants could reconfigure aspects of romantic love so that being the “one-no longer required being the “only.-These reconfigurations highlight the links between the romantic love ideology and traditional gendered power dynamics, illustrating how multiple partner intimacies may have the potential to challenge hegemonic gender and sexual ideals. Keywords Romantic love Gender Sexuality Non-monogamy